March 3, 2008
Help Needed!
OK - so here's the deal. We're TRYING to potty train Jacob, but it's not going to bueno! For any of you who have had sons - how in the world do you teach them to go in the potty?? I won't go into detail what we're dealing with as most of you probably don't really want to know anyway! ;) If you've got tips or suggestions please let us know! (People with experience only - "the book says" just isn't real life!!) How old were your sons when they were potty trained? How long did it take to get them to be willing to go on the potty? My mop will be ever so thankful when this is over!!
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We're in the same boat!!! Please let me know what helpful info you get. Noah is NOT cooperating! :)
What we've found is that boys have a bit of an attitude when it comes to potty training. They'll go when they're good and ready. We just got Jarin trained about 9 mo. ago and he was well over 4. When he was good and ready, he went and guess what? Since he made the decision, we have not had 1 accident! So, I guess I'm kind of relaxed about it. They'll go when they're good and ready. You don't see any Kindergartner's in diapers.:) In the mean time, you can familarize him with how it all works, but if you push too hard, I think they tend to fight you more.:) Good luck!:)
ThingS will be fine, your hair will even come back! *WINK* The little boy I was tending never stood he is way to short. Keep that in mind. That might be another trick?????
Wyatt trained long ago. But the thing that was our huge help is we took him (we did this for all our kids) to walmart and they picked out his (big boy bike) first bike, every time there after we would visit the bike section to say hi to the bike during the training session. Once Wyatt went for 8-9 days we went and bought it. We did go once to visit and his bike that he had his eyes on had been purchased. He was disapointed but I said "some other big boy must be going on the potty now." We visited another time and walmart had another TONKA bike it was a good thing and he only took a few more days. Keep trying. Some of it is in him too. If there muscles are not developed and no one can tell, he wont be able to do it till they are. My nephew has had a difficult time (he's 5)!!! Would rather write about that in an email.
YOU GO MA'MA!
Cindy - you can see the two comments I've had so far...not looking like we're going to get Noah and Jacob to cooperate until they want to. I think what they're saying is we can't MAKE our kids do this until they're good and ready. humph! ;)
Tracy & Wrena - thanks for telling your experiences. What I'm gathering is our dreams of having Jacob completely trained by the time baby #2 gets here probably is not a reality. He'll be exactly 2 1/2 when he/ she is supposed to be born. I was soooo hoping not to have 2 in diapers at once!
Kristen- Both of my boys were about 3 1/2 when finally and completely potty trained. This has just happened for Bryce. Everyone is right, they have to make their mind up and until then you'll just have to sit tight!!:( Sorry!! I doesn't hurt to put him on the potty every time, you never know when it might be that time. About having two in diapers, I had two in diapers/pull ups for a year and a half. Lane wasn't even two when Bryce was born. You'll make it, I promise!!:) Hugs for little Jacob. Shauna
Joe was trained before he was two, and I think this is the best time to train because it's before they really have a mind of their own for potty training which happens at about 2 1/2 according to the experts. If you don't get him trained before baby arrives, he very well could be nearly 4 before it's done. Trust me, you don't want that.
The best advise I can give you came from my mother. Sit him down on the potty (Sitting works best to start. He will convert to standing on his own after watching dad for awhile.) Keep putting him on the potty every 10 minutes or so, and when you're pretty sure he hasn't gone in awhile, sprinkle cold water on his winky. This usually stimulates the right reaction. I always reward with candy, but some people don't like that. It worked well for all my kids. Number 2 is a little trickier. You kind of have to know when they're ready, and catch them in the act. If they get any at all in the potty, make the hugest deal ever.
Hope this helps.
Steph
For a very short time I had two in diapers when I was preg. with #3. Then.... for a long while I had 2 in diaps. at the same time. YOU will be ok if that is how it turns out!
I forgot to mention we threw ourselvse a party NO MORE DIAPERS!! for just us 5!!! I don't even think the kids will remember it but it was such a good excuse to party and have a slumber on the living room floor!
We did the bike thing too (that Wrena mentioned) with Justin and that worked pretty well...and buying "big boy underwear" too. Let them pick out a favorite, but make them work for it too. I don't necessarily agree to the comment about "2 1/2" being the magic age. There really is no "magic age", as each child is so different, they all progress at a different age and some are more ready than others. If you find yourself taking them potty every 10minutes, who's trained? Them or you? Even if you manage to do it before 2 1/2, he may regress a little when the baby's born too and that's to be expected.
Kristen - Keep trying! Consistency was my main hurdle. Benjamin is fully potty trained now at nearly 2 1/2 and it is wonderful! I agree with Steph - watch for signs that he needs to go. Also, Benjamin loved getting to wear 'big boy train (Thomas)pants' and little candies were another good incentive. I had a stack of books by his chair. We'd read books together and made it a 'fun' time. To help it 'click' in Benjamin's mind - I'd leave off the diaper, put on his underwear & sweat pants. When he would go - the sweatpants soaked up most of it & of course it was cold and he didn't like that. He quickly figured out how to stay dry. Hope some of this helps! Andrea
Wrena - cute idea about the "No More Diapers" party. I hope I remember that when our turn comes. Thanks for the idea.
Traci - I REALLY did not want to see that "4"!! But thanks for "keeping it real" and letting me know what reality may be.
Steph - thanks for your input too. I like the idea of candy or some kind of treat each time he does actually go on the potty. I hadn't thought about sprinkling a bit of water on him to help "stimulate". That's a good idea. The one time he accidently went in the potty David and I clapped and made such a big deal out if it you would have he had just been named MVP of the Superbowl or something!
Andrea - consistancy is hard for me too. It's no problem to put him on there in the mornings and evenings, but during the day I'm so busy with the other two babies. I'll just do what I can between now and May then once June gets here and I don't have the babies any more I can be more consistant during the day. Maybe I should invest in some sweat pants when all the winter clothes go on sale - good idea.
Thanks also to the people who have e-mailed instead of leaving a msg. on Blogger. I appreciate all of you taking time to let me know what's worked for you. The bottom line is it's going to take lots of time and patients but we'll make it through this. When you look at your precious little baby when they're so young you don't think about what lies ahead...and that's a good thing some times. ;)
Looks like you've got plenty of suggestions here...My boys were slower than my girls, and I speak from experience here..12x...LOL, there is NO magic age! what works for one dosen't nessessarily work for the other. My 3 boys were around 3 1/2-4 yrs. Girls 2-3 1/2.
They'll go when they're ready, and yes, you can make it worse. Believe me, there's worse things than 2 in diapers!! And, yes you can try the bribes, but sometimes when you ask "wouldn't you like to wear these?", or "how about ??? if you go" the answer is "No thank you"!!!! SMILE--Believe me, they grow too fast, and when he's 20, you won't care how long he wore diapers/pullups, but you may just wonder WHEN HE'S EVER GOING TO LEAVE HOME!!! LOL!!!
The J's - your comment cracked me up! With 12 kids I know you had LOTS of experience with the potty thing. Thanks for commenting!
Keep some Mop and Glow beside the toilet. Because even though they get potty trained it may still get sprayed around.
Hang out with other little boys and let him watch them go. Positive peer pressure.
Sherry just put big boy pants on Connor with the plastic covers. When it ran down his legs, he didn't like it too well. I think it was pretty easy after that. ;)
Good Luck!!! (I'm a few years behind you)
Kristen
You will make it with two in diapers!!! I "always" potty trained in the summer so they could be outside a lot.
And Sherry said that you might have to do more laundry for a week; but that was about all the longer that it took Connor.
I laugh in the face of potty training! Not to be a wet blanket or anything, but believe me, we have tried ALL these suggestions... M&M/candy bribes, sticker bribes, taking him to the store to pick out something he'll get when he goes potty consistently, training early (he first showed interest/even went for a couple of days on his own suggestion at 18 months), wearing big boy underwear, letting him "sit" in it (he doesn't care!). I too wanted to get him trained before his little brother arrived. Bah. We're now at 3 1/2 (his little brother is just turning 2) and he's still not interested. The only thing we haven't tried is the potty training in a day idea of having an all day potty party using a doll the first half of the day and then with him the second half of the day. We're pretty much down to the technique several advisors here told about - don't push it... they'll go when they're good and ready. Good luck on this one. ;)
p.s. Craig (my husband) says when he turns 16 he's getting a job and paying for his OWN diapers! ;)
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